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Receiving healthy love and growing up from the illusions of heartbreak

Heartbreak is a felt stress response that changes our perception of love and that creates a feeling of learned helplessness in our bodies.

The trauma of heartbreak leaves us feeling at mercy of men, circumstances, and life in general. It keeps us stuck in waiting and fantasizing about a relationship that will help us escape our current life and the feeling of isolation and loneliness. … Continue readingReceiving healthy love and growing up from the illusions of heartbreak

Letting go of servanthood in relationships and connecting with your inner glow

And now if we are sweet and pleasant (yet carrying a lot of pent-up frustration in our hearts and bodies and often being completely disconnected from it) and the man is still not coming towards us and meeting our needs, the part of us lurking in the shadows will come up:

“I gave you my life and love. I was working so hard for your love and I expect you to work hard for mine as well. Why aren´t you willing to abandon yourself for me, when I abandoned myself for you? If you don´t abandon yourself for me, you must not love me. I will now punish you by withholding my love as well.” … Continue readingLetting go of servanthood in relationships and connecting with your inner glow