Letting go of servanthood in relationships and connecting with your inner glow

And now if we are sweet and pleasant (yet carrying a lot of pent-up frustration in our hearts and bodies and often being completely disconnected from it) and the man is still not coming towards us and meeting our needs, the part of us lurking in the shadows will come up:

“I gave you my life and love. I was working so hard for your love and I expect you to work hard for mine as well. Why aren´t you willing to abandon yourself for me, when I abandoned myself for you? If you don´t abandon yourself for me, you must not love me. I will now punish you by withholding my love as well.” … Continue readingLetting go of servanthood in relationships and connecting with your inner glow

You don´t have to work hard for love, connection, and intimacy: the illusion of not being chosen

The “trying hard” comes from a stress response, and if not tended to and restored with gentle care and tender love it can drive her to a point of complete physical and emotional exhaustion and isolation where she ends up withdrawing from life, love, and living on breadcrumbs from men who are living outside of healthy masculinity. … Continue readingYou don´t have to work hard for love, connection, and intimacy: the illusion of not being chosen